I’m 51 and I’ve been married for 33 years. My two sons are aged 29 and 16. I had a third child who passed away 11 years ago in an accident.
I’ve always been tired. Exhausted. For the last 20 years I’ve bragged that I would fall asleep in the dentist’s chair. I couldn’t stay awake when we were driving long distances; I would have to open the windows and tell the boys to talk to me. Even driving from our home in Eastwood to Bondi [in Sydney] was too much. My husband would say, "What’s wrong with you?" And I didn’t know. It’s not like I was running marathons. I didn’t have a high-flying career that’s very demanding. I could stay at home and relax and I would still be exhausted.
I’ve been to many doctors, mainly because my local doctor kept on changing. I have a regular check-up each year but nothing showed up. They would suggest things like depression, especially after my son passed away, but I didn’t think I had depression. I’m a chirpy, happy person — but always tired. Then about six months ago my doctor told me I had developed high blood pressure. He said it was due to menopause and gave me medication for it.
I was snoring heavily for the past year, which had been bothering my husband, keeping him awake. The last straw was when I went to have a facial with a girlfriend recently. We were talking then I noticed she was giggling. I asked why, and she said I had just suddenly fallen asleep and started snoring.
I went back to my doctor and told him I thought I had sleep apnoea and wanted to be tested! He gave me a referral to go to a sleep lab for a test to determine if I had sleep apnoea. After the test, the physician there told me I had severe sleep apnoea. Apparently in one hour I was waking up 30 times — that was once every two minutes! It’s like I was doing marathons through the night. And I wasn’t even aware of it. It’s unconscious waking.
The doctor prescribed positive airway pressure treatment. Now I wake up feeling fresh, and the dark rings under my eyes have nearly gone. I didn’t know what sleep was until I started using my equipment.
I’ve got energy now. I don’t need mini-naps during the day. Even when I’ve had an extremely busy day my body might be tired, but internally I am fresh. Last week I took my mask off during the night — my husband said I snored again and kept him awake, and when my friend rang she could tell from my voice that I hadn’t used it. She could hear the tiredness in the way I talked.
I think it’s the machinery. They’re scared of wearing an ugly mask at night.
I don’t have a thick neck and I was told by the physician at the sleep lab that I’m not the typical person who has severe sleep apnoea, but I do have it. I would have stayed at home and lived like this forever if I hadn’t heard of the test. I’ve always been like this — I just thought it was ‘me’, to be tired all the time.
I’ve heard that a lot of people give it up, but I won’t. I know some people are put off because the machinery is quite expensive. That’s true, but if you don’t treat your sleep apnoea, you continue suffering the symptoms of sleep apnoea that in the long run may be a lot more expensive than buying a sleep apnoea machine. I live a healthy life — I eat well, I don’t smoke, I don’t drink. Why wouldn’t I have my sleep apnoea treated and stay healthy that way as well?
Disclaimer: Each member story relates to an account of an individual in response to sleep apnoea. Their response is genuine, typical and documented. However, each individual’s response does not provide any indication, warranty or guarantee that other people will have the same or a similar experience. Also note that responses to treatment can, and do, vary and not every response is the same.